Sometimes life beats us up into a pulp, with the dead ends, the challenges, the failures, disappointments and the bitterness of hope. We feel the jabs as we are hit over and over again and the frustrations set in.
For some people, life is smooth sailing, every corner has another and better opportunity. But for others, life is a battle where the wars they fight never end, and every war has its casualties, both physical and emotional.
We live unfinished lives, where what we have attained was not quite what we anticipated, where we settled in life rather than soared. We kept waiting for our time to come, but it never did, day after day. The bitterness of hope is overwhelming because you are always expectant thinking that tomorrow will be better, but tomorrow becomes yesterday and you are still stuck in the same situation.
Life then becomes a continuous funk of frustration and near misses led by a disappointment in ourselves, thinking we should have been raised better, we should have known better or done better, taken a different route altogether. The disappointment in ourselves then becomes a disease that eats at us and drains our life. Our life then becomes this wave of negative emotions that takes a hold on us.
To overcome this tide of negative emotions, we have to learn to play the hand we have been dealt with, to step aside so that the jabs don’t hit us, to hold on tight to the ones we love and to find another road with less sand to go in our eyes. At the end of the day, we can be stronger, we can get up and fight back, we can hold on longer and still hope for a better tomorrow because when we start to dread tomorrow then we start to stress and obsess about the situation.
Even as we get hit, we have to let the wounds heal then go back into the ring because as the jabs hit, you learn to hit back until you are stronger, faster, wiser and more resilient.
We hold onto the promise that tomorrow will be a better day. We talk to family, talk to friends, strangers and consult professionals. Slowly by slowly, the bitterness melts away and is replaced by a glimmering light of expectation. We look forward to the promise of tomorrow and hope that we will rise and live to fight on.
We all at some point get beaten or get burnt. But all that matters is getting up and rising from the ashes. It’s TRUE we get out dirty, burnt and scarred but the real victory is it the rising. Sometimes life’s lessons are learned the hard away.
By not dreading the future, we can always hope for the best and believe against all odds that tomorrow will be a better day. A situation not working out doesn’t mean we break down but we must learn to take a break to recharge. We can change our perception by letting go of past mistakes and not dwelling on all the scars we already have and focusing on the lessons they taught us.
Be willing to start over without losing what you have. You can set your resolutions but remember to appreciate what you already have. There is a lot of peace that can be gained from appreciating what is here than hoping for what is missing. Learn to practice gratitude. This will help you focus on the achievements infront of you.
Brush off negative vibes. Don’t tolerate negative emotions from people who bring you down. Know how good you are and how great your accomplishments are. This will prevent others from putting you down and taking advantage of you.
Written by;
Muhawe Evelyn
Muhawe Evelyn is a Banker who is passionate about writing and Content Creation.
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